Same anon about the advice thing. Anyways, we’re planning to have me come backover this summer. We’ve got a while till then though. I just wanted to ask for any sort of advice you guys could possibly give me? We’re young, 16, but I love her with all my heart and just want to always make her happy. Sometimes I just feel like I’m not doing enough though, and online relationships can be so hard, I know she gets lonely. Is there anything I could be doing? Can you give me any advice? (2 0f 2 I guess)
Hello, Anon. Thank you for the message! We’re sorry of this is late but we didn’t get an alert about these asks for some reason.
Long distance relationships are tricky. We recommend consistent availability to talk. Try to make sure you talk a little every day. Even if you’re really busy and all you can manage is a quick conversation. If you can’t talk for some reason, try and make plans ahead of time so everyone is aware and you can plan a date to make up of it later.
One of the most important things we could ever recommend is open and clear communication. Always, always, always make sure there is an open flow of communication. It is so easy to hide things over the internet and that means you need to go above and beyond to make sure you always make your intentions and feelings about everything clear.
Another one is the flipside of communication and that’s consideration. Consider your partner’s feelings when making plans or decisions. Remember, you’re a team. Just because you’re far away, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep them an active part of your life.
If you can keep both of these things in check, you’ll avoid a lot of stress and confrontation.
But still, be prepared to have heated discussions. You’re a team but you’re also individual people. There will be misunderstandings, miscommunications, and conflicting feelings. If you can accept and be prepared for that, things will flow a lot easier.
The last big tip we can think of is try to keep goals. If you don’t have a goal, it’s easy for things to slip and get more difficult and stressful. With a goal you can at least plan your next trip when you get sad and you have something to look forward to.You guys already have a trip coming up so good for you on that one. =P But even things like planning dates to spend a day or afternoon on webcam/call or watching movies at the same time, can be nice temporary goals to help things feel closer and more positive.
We wish you the very best. =) Feel free to ask if you have any more questions and off anon if you want to talk more in private. Good luck with your visit this summer!